sex is apparently all around us far too many men and women seem to have forgotten what good sex is, or is not.

Good And Bad

Even though sex is apparently all around us far too many men and women seem to have forgotten what good sex is, or is not. These men and women, of all ages, single people or married, seem to think that either sex is only good when it is between a man and a woman and married, even though the couple may actually not being having pleasurable or even just enjoyable sexual relations, or that believe that sex is only good when it is something that can be bragged about to other people, that sex is only good when it is something that can be used as a way to boost the ego. But the fact is that both these very different viewpoints will not lead to a good or satisfying sex life. Sex is not a thing, it is not an item to be had or not had and sex has nothing to do with marriage or any other structure that our society may or may not put on it.

As we all know but so easy dismiss with a raging ego, sex is a physical pleasure that can be had between one person or many or just one. Sex is something that may or may not lead to orgasm but even that is not essential. Sex, in its broadest sense, is about pleasure and pleasure is joy and happiness ; it is not something that can be delivered by culture, law, the government or is something that can be bought or sold. Sex, when it is good, is almost a form of magic: a way of being more than what you are day-to-day. What’s ironic is that most people have felt sex that is wonderful and fun and joyful but then, unfortunately, they look over their shoulders or suffer from guilt and shame and all kinds of sad and negative emotions and so lose track of the good feelings they had. Society beats us back with definitions and recriminations about looking at porn or labels of sex addiction, and we all but run for cover even admitting we think about fucking!
Good and bad are subjective terms but we all know well enough when we have a bed partner that isn’t turning us on or us them. We all know enough how to please ourselves and we all know enough that it takes as little to have bad sex as it does good; it’s all a matter of communicating thee good and the bad to our bed mate.